When Finding Yourself Goes Wrong – Part 1: Finding Love in the Big City XVII

By at 27 June, 2008, 12:00 am

After a long hiatus for lady OP, as I am in the process of finding myself – you know the discovery of the reason why I’m here, whom I’m meant to influence and/or love and all of that heady psychobabble – I’m back and ready to rejoin the writing world with a doozy of a […]


Behind Bars: Finding Love in the Big City XV

By at 12 May, 2008, 5:00 pm

When has it become okay to allow ourselves to be as locked down as the men who look at prison bars and are banned from seeing the light of day? While sitting here listening to my favorite radio station late at night, woman after woman relates their love through the airwaves to the men that […]


The Grass Ain’t Always Greener: Finding Love in the Big City XIV

By at 7 March, 2008, 1:00 am

In such a digital world, we have so little time to just reflect on our hopes and dreams before our peaceful thoughts are interrupted by the blaring of someone’s inane ring tone or someone doing the two-step to their favorite club jam brought to you by iPod, iTunes, Zune and all of the others and […]


Lies, Lies, Can’t Believe a Word they Say! – Part 2: Finding Love in the Big City XIII

By at 24 February, 2008, 12:00 am

 If you remember the last time you were in a sex drought, getting it is exciting and reminds you that damn it I’m still alive and someone still think I’m fine. Well, that is what it felt like. Just like any high, eventually you come down and start asking questions and really consider what happened and […]


Lies, Lies, Can’t Believe a Word they Say! – Part 1: Finding Love in the Big City XIII

By at 22 February, 2008, 12:00 am

Back into the swing of the dating pool, feeling more confident about having attracted more people, getting more looks on the subway ride to work (aside from the homeless men looking at me as if I’m a Human ATM Machine), I decide to diversify my assets. . . see what it’s like to date more […]


How to Kill your Chances for the Panties: Finding Love in the Big City XII

By at 12 February, 2008, 12:20 am

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, Lady OP thought that she may have a Valentine for that special day, but as usual I think the Gods use my love life to create funny/disturbing stories for the masses. Now that I am more comfortable with this role, let’s get on with it!With my First Date […]


Dance with Me: Finding Love in the Big City XI

By at 4 February, 2008, 12:00 am

After about a week of wondering if he is going to call or was he indeed a bullshitter like the rest, Secret Admirer calls and we chat it up. At first glance, I can’t really tell what his ethnicity is and I’m curious. It’s rare to meet someone where you aren’t sure what box they […]


Finding Love in the Big City X: Matchmaker Matchmaker make me a Match!

By at 31 January, 2008, 12:00 am

Back in the swing of things again, lady OP went on her first date in a very long time. He isn’t quite black… but he isn’t quite white… So what is he? In a rare moment, at work when I didn’t have to help someone out, direct someone to the nearest restroom, or diffuse a […]


Finding Love in the Big City IX: A New Outlook Courtesy of an Old Soul

By at 23 January, 2008, 12:00 am

So when we last saw Lady OP, she was unfortunately splayed out on the canvas by a sucker punch. So I have swatted the stars that were flying about my head, dusted myself off and am ready to jump back into the shallow end dating pool… well at least I think I am. The hardest […]


Finding Love in the Big City VIII: The Art of Rope-a-Dope

By at 30 December, 2007, 1:22 pm

So it is two days out from the celebration of the new year; when I should be concerned with finding a cute outfit for New Years Eve, I am slapped with reality – getting dumped – yes that’s right – DUMPED. Since I finally passed the blubbering stage (all of two hours ago), I am […]


Finding Love in the Big City VII: Cutting off the Ex’s

By at 1 November, 2007, 6:00 am

After a long hiatus, dear readers, OP (Orange Phoenix) has stumbled upon yet another epiphany on this dating thing. So just a general question, how long does one give a potential partner to cut ties with his ex’s?  Is it three months, a couple of weeks after the two people decide that they are going […]


Finding Love in the Big City VI: When a Blind Date Goes Bad

By at 4 September, 2007, 4:35 pm

Just to note: So I made a promise to go through with this date, even after 749,995 appeared back on the scene.  Okay, so I think that I’ve had some interesting dating experiences to say the least, but one’s dating repertoire cannot be complete unless your well-meaning friends decide that you are too pathetic and cute […]