Hand Service

By at 27 October, 2008, 12:00 am

Lately, there has been an ongoing discussion between some folks and myself about how to discipline a child. Many of these people feel that hitting a child is always necessary when the child doesn’t obey. I was given the opportunity to hear various stories and share some of my own regarding the issue of discipline. […]


Turning in My Cape: Finding Love in the Big City XXI

By at 20 October, 2008, 8:36 am

What exactly do I have to offer a potential mate?  Such a random question right? For those of us that are single, especially us women folk, the first thing that we think about is making “the list” – You know the list, that holy grail of qualifications that a potential mate should be endowed with […]


The Newark Chronicles – Part 1: Finding Love in the Big City XX

By at 7 October, 2008, 12:00 am

Since lightning struck once, why not twice? On a rare evening off, I decided to willingly cross state lines in search of food, music and fun.  Instead of trekking into Manhattan, I decided to give Newark’s nightlife a try. Why is it so much easier to feel saucy when you know that there won’t be […]


Crossing State Lines: Finding Love in the Big City XIX

By at 18 September, 2008, 9:05 am

Luck be a Lady Tonight. . . Home of bucolic skies, rich green foliage and the chance to take a deep breath after running the rate race.  Where is this place – Well it’s New Jersey.  For as long as I remember New Jersey has routinely been the butt of my jokes – you know, […]


Stand Clear of the Closing Doors: Finding Love in the Big City XVIII

By at 22 August, 2008, 12:00 am

What is it about this 28th year that is forcing me to delve deeper into (cue the Darth Vader sound effect) DARK SIDE?  So I’m a bit spiritual and I do sort of buy into the whole numerology thing – with that in mind 2 + 8 = 10, which is equal to 1 + […]


Cyber Love

By at 4 August, 2008, 11:44 am

Word on the street is love cannot be found on the internet because you have to be in someone’s presence to experience real love. I don’t agree at all. Love can be felt whether you’re cheek to cheek, or millions of miles away. Love in my opinion is an energy that doesn’t need physical interaction […]


When Finding Yourself Goes Wrong – Part 3: Finding Love in the Big City XVII

By at 1 August, 2008, 12:00 am

So going to the sea is supposed to be cleansing and energizing at the same time, so going to the beach with a date should bring about feelings of warmth and fuzziness right? Umm. . . WRONG!!! If it was anyone else’s dating experience, that would be true, but this is the good ‘ol Orange […]


I Must Confess

By at 28 July, 2008, 3:09 pm

Throughout any given day, no matter where I am (I could be at a funeral) I find myself lusting over someone. Many times within a 24 hour period, I may have had lustful thoughts about numerous people. Even when in a relationship, I cannot help but feel lust taking over my thoughts. I will say […]


When Finding Yourself Goes Wrong – Part 2: Finding Love in the Big City XVII

By at 18 July, 2008, 12:00 am

When we last left our heroine, she was contemplating whether to go on the date with the bicycle passerby. Dating Note # 1: NEVER LET A COMPLETE STRANGER MEET YOU AT YOUR HOUSE.  IF THEY TURN INTO A STALKER, THEN YOU’RE FUCKED. Me: Uh, not my house, why don’t we meet here at the train […]


Physical Mentality

By at 6 July, 2008, 12:00 am

Respect You… Respect Me… Believe in you… Believe in me… Care for you… Care for me… Love you… Love me… Be honest with you… Be honest with me… Cherish you… Cherish me… Trust you… Trust me… Be patient with you… Be patient with me… Honor you… Honor me… Inspire you… Inspire me… Protect you… Protect […]


When Finding Yourself Goes Wrong – Part 1: Finding Love in the Big City XVII

By at 27 June, 2008, 12:00 am

After a long hiatus for lady OP, as I am in the process of finding myself – you know the discovery of the reason why I’m here, whom I’m meant to influence and/or love and all of that heady psychobabble – I’m back and ready to rejoin the writing world with a doozy of a […]


Indecent Proposal Experiment: Finding Love in the Big City XVI

By at 26 May, 2008, 12:00 am

The birds are singing, painted toes are out and about and hormones are running wild – it must be Spring!!  After a hard winter of lovelorn contemplation, I decided to once again step out of my comfort zone.  No more online madness – better than that. . . I think Chris Rock said it best […]