Disappearing Acts

By on August 10, 2009 @ 1:30 pm

Disappearing Acts
You ever have those people who can be considered extras in your life? The folks that don’t really have a supporting role or a main part within your life yet they are a constant staple in the background?

Well, for me, I find myself noticing those folks who sit on the bench or are in front of the corner store, liquor store or the local church. You don’t know them by name but you know their faces and if they are not present in their usual places you notice.

One I can recall is the homeless woman on the train who has the phrase of choice for her begging prowess, “change to spare, change to spend”. She disappeared at one point and I didn’t necessarily recall when at first until one day she popped up pregnant. I assumed she was pregnant by some homeless dude or vagrant. And then, there was her second disappearance, which I did notice rght away. This time, upon her return to the beggars’ scene, she was sans child. I hope the child ended up in a better place than the offspring’s mother.

And then, there is that dude in the wheelchair, who didn’t always have a wheelchair to get around in. I remember years ago he was able to walk from bench to building without any assistance. Later, the wheelchair popped up as his mode of transportation. There was an incident that occurred prior to me seeing him that left his leg damaged, bleeding through the streets and police in toe, while he belligerently berated them for following him. Maybe they were only trying to help, but he didn’t see it that way.

Well, this same dude went missing some months ago. I didn’t take notice to it. But the folk in his building noticed flies at the door and a rank odor coming from his apartment. The neighbors called the super, he peeped his head in and kept it moving. Later, the tenants noticed a padlock on the door. This was added on by the building owner because the rent hadn’t been paid.

The odor only got worse. The neighbors called the police this time around, who knocked the door down only to find the man dead. His body decomposed. It was later discovered that he had died some time in late winter. He died alone. With no one to check up on him, he went unnoticed.

If you were to go tomorrow would your death go unnoticed? Do you think anyone would come by abd actually check to see if you are ok?

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Dan-Sean Mankind August 10, 2009

I am familiar with the homeless woman who wears Jordans and has “coined” the phrase “change to spare, change to spend”. She has been riding the trains with child for many years. The same question has been on my mind lately as well, and I at least know there are ppl in my life who check up on me when they dont hear from me after 2-3 days. I am blessed to have that. It is unfortunate that many dont have that in their lives. Excellent post!

meleah rebeccah August 11, 2009

I can only HOPE if I vanished or died people would notice. Im thinking my son would at least be concerned!

Quirky Vegan August 22, 2009

I live alone and sometimes wonder how long it would take for me to be missed if something happened to me. Probably work when I didn’t turn up on Monday morning, which is a bit of a sad story in itself.

rockyhorror August 26, 2009

I guess it’s safe to say that you are back? :-)


Urban Thought August 26, 2009

Dan-Sean Mankind: I know for sure that you will be sort after, if you were ever to have an extended absence.

Meleah: No doubt your son will be on the case in finding you. I’m sure when he does finally reach you he’ll have camera in hand.

Quirky Vegan: Indeed it is. I recall a friend of mine telling me that her company actually stops by her house when they didn’t hear from her. She was running late and was preoccupied with things that kept her from contacting the job. It is a true testament to the type of company which employed her, that they would stop by to check on her. I hope someone looks out for you. Thank you for stopping by.

rockyhorror: I am back. I’m hoping to keep the party going (so to speak). :-)

Phoenix August 28, 2009

Liking the deep post Urban – giving me some inspiration . . .

Desiree August 31, 2009

It’s like an email that I received sometime ago about a man always worked. When others would come to work, he was always already there and was still there when they left. The guy was still there when the cleaning service company came in. Days had went by before anyone really noticed that he had actually died. So, to answer the question you posed about a death going unnoticed, his death did; so I wonder how many others have as well.

As with a previous poster, I also live alone, and I truly believe the only people that would actually be concerned about my whereabouts after several days would be the people I work with because I see them everyday. I speak with my mother almost everyday and I see her almost every weekend or every other weekend, but my coworkers would recognize something first.

Urban Thought August 31, 2009

Phoenix: I’m glad I can be that for you today. I look forward to the fruit of that inspiration — whatever form it takes.

Desiree: We were just discussing how we spend most of our time with our coworkers than we do with our own family. In NYC most of us have roommates, but in my situation I think that my co-workers would be more inclined to seek out my whereabouts before family. I think this is more of a reflection of how I handle my life.

Desiree August 31, 2009

I think that most of us are the same way. We see and have more interaction with our co-workers than our own family. For me to have never been to NYC, I would have thought that it would be more difficult for people to notice someone no longer being around. I guess that’s why New Yorkers seem to be more in tune with the people around them than some others. On another note, I can’t wait to vacation in the NY next year. School comes first and fun comes later.

Urban Thought August 31, 2009

Desiree: I think that a lot of NYers notice their surroundings because they usually have their guard up and need to be hyper aware of what’s going on around them. I think you’ll have a great time here. There is much to do. I’m glad you have your priorities in order.

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