An April Fool, No Joke

By on April 1, 2009 @ 2:18 pm

Today is supposed to be Wordless Wednesday, but I have no pictures to post and it has been sometime since my last blog entry — so I’m saying my piece. Thank you to all that have inquired about the whereabouts of the folks that makes up the collective of Urban Observation. We’ve all been on our separate journeys of character development and relationship building. Actually, that applies to the others more so than it does to me. I’ve been busy trying to get right for summer. But that is another post for another day.

The observations haven’t stopped though. For instance, just this morning…

…while making my way to street level I hopped onto an escalator, ascending behind a lovely young lady with a nice figure — I couldn’t help but pay attention to her. And then I heard the thunder of  someone rapidly climbing the adjacent escalator. He made eye contact with the lady in front of me and said, “you’re a spiteful bitch.” She looked at him and said nothing. And as she proceeded off the escalator he took her right flank as if  he said was ‘good morning baby’.

This reminded me of a story old co-workers once told me. My co-worker was attending a CUNY game. While sitting in the stands he noticed a young couple and an interesting exchange of words: The young girl jumped from her companion’s side and proceeded toward the concessions area. Her companion shouted to her, “Yo bitch! Get me a hot dog while you’re over there.” Without skipping a beat she looked back to him with a grin and said, “You want mustard?” He nodded in the affirmative and sat down as if this was a normal exchange between the two.

I’m wondering… Is saying the word bitch to a woman you’re with a term of endearment?

Is bitch (when referring to your female companion) the new baby, sweetie, honey, sugar?

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Sue April 1, 2009

No self-respecting woman I know would ever tolerate being called “bitch” by the same person who loved her the most, including myself. If this is a ‘sign of the times’, I worry about the women within. Are we headed back into the dark ages of co-dependency, battery, and patriarchal society? I surely hope not.

Ricardo April 2, 2009

I remember this song back from the days of Yo!MTV Raps. LOL!

I don’t think it’s really the right thing to call a woman you love that. I heard former Knick Stephon Marbury call his wife his “good ho” on TV during an interview.

I figured you were OK because I saw your tweets on Twitter.

rawdawgbuffalo April 3, 2009

im just lol at this we get upset over minor stuff

lavenderbay April 4, 2009

Good to hear from you again, UT!

I first came across the use of “bitch” as a term of endearment when I left home in 1980. “You bitch!” would be said, with a smile, as an appreciative response to someone’s witty, catty comment. I now think it came out of gay male speech.

I hope the guys in the examples you cite were using the word ironically. It still sounds disrespectful to me to be shouting it in public, though. There’s a middle-finger attitude being displayed, like making out on a park bench; something’s lost when intimacy crosses over into exhibitionism. And that’s a bitch.

Lo-ove the video you chose to accompany the piece!

Ms. Q April 7, 2009

I love The Queen! Talented and gorjus, just gorjus!

I’m not much into using derogatory terms and making them a compliment or endearment. I guess Blacks calling each other niggas is considered cool amongst themselves but maybe I’m old school since I think anything related to “nigger” is bad. Ditto “bitch” and “ho.”

These days I seldom even swear and I’ve noticed that the people I like don’t either. Not that I mind swearing all that much, it’s just that I don’t really feel in the mood to. There’s this one guy at work who is so much fun to be with – big smile, great energy – we were talking about not swearing since he noticed I say, “Dang!” I forget what he says but I think he uses something like “Rats!”

My kinda guy!

Natural April 8, 2009

uh, i don’t think i would want someone to call me a B, although it has been used to describe my personality by a few people, they don’t know me. it has been used as a term of endearment, once, and that’s wasn’t a problem – by a woman, but i wouldn’t want my man calling me a B.

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