Comments on: Tap Tap Tap… The Message Is On The Wall http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/09/25/tap-tap-tap-the-message-is-on-the-wall/ Tue, 09 Mar 2010 09:00:21 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: invisiblewoman http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/09/25/tap-tap-tap-the-message-is-on-the-wall/comment-page-1/#comment-10175 invisiblewoman Sat, 18 Oct 2008 23:04:40 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=581#comment-10175 where you at? where you at?

]]> By: Ricardo http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/09/25/tap-tap-tap-the-message-is-on-the-wall/comment-page-1/#comment-9869 Ricardo Fri, 03 Oct 2008 04:05:35 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=581#comment-9869 There is both good and bad tapping. I can't describe it here but I know it when it happens and my manners also go out the window. There is both good and bad tapping. I can’t describe it here but I know it when it happens and my manners also go out the window.

]]> By: The Fitness Diva http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/09/25/tap-tap-tap-the-message-is-on-the-wall/comment-page-1/#comment-9818 The Fitness Diva Wed, 01 Oct 2008 02:39:37 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=581#comment-9818 Very nicely told. I only have an issue about giving an older person a seat if they're demanding and pushy about it. I remember once an old Asian lady got on the train and wanted to sit down in this tiny little crevasse between me and the next person. She stood in my face and with a mean look, waved her hand really aggressively in my face, motioning for me to move aside, like "move! move!!". Well, of course, I just sat there and looked at her like she was crazy. Your disrespect gets MY disrespect, I don't care HOW old you are. Well, the guy next to me gets up and gives her the seat, and then, all of a sudden, she's all sugar and spice and smiles; "oh, thank you soooooo much, thank you, thank you. Ohhhhhhh.". Mean, old, phony bitch. She wasn't nice at all, judging by the way she treated me! I was glad I didn't move for her. Very nicely told.
I only have an issue about giving an older person a seat if they’re demanding and pushy about it.
I remember once an old Asian lady got on the train and wanted to sit down in this tiny little crevasse between me and the next person. She stood in my face and with a mean look, waved her hand really aggressively in my face, motioning for me to move aside, like “move! move!!”. Well, of course, I just sat there and looked at her like she was crazy. Your disrespect gets MY disrespect, I don’t care HOW old you are. Well, the guy next to me gets up and gives her the seat, and then, all of a sudden, she’s all sugar and spice and smiles; “oh, thank you soooooo much, thank you, thank you. Ohhhhhhh.”. Mean, old, phony bitch. She wasn’t nice at all, judging by the way she treated me!
I was glad I didn’t move for her.

]]> By: Eb http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/09/25/tap-tap-tap-the-message-is-on-the-wall/comment-page-1/#comment-9816 Eb Wed, 01 Oct 2008 02:06:10 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=581#comment-9816 ha.. you know you dead wrong but that is true... he could at least open up his mouth and speak... that tapping with the cane mess would have gotten no loe from me either ha.. you know you dead wrong but that is true… he could at least open up his mouth and speak… that tapping with the cane mess would have gotten no loe from me either

]]> By: meleah rebeccah http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/09/25/tap-tap-tap-the-message-is-on-the-wall/comment-page-1/#comment-9775 meleah rebeccah Mon, 29 Sep 2008 01:51:44 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=581#comment-9775 THAT was a GREAT post. Very well told. *loved it* THAT was a GREAT post. Very well told. *loved it*

]]> By: rawdawgbuffalo http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/09/25/tap-tap-tap-the-message-is-on-the-wall/comment-page-1/#comment-9759 rawdawgbuffalo Sun, 28 Sep 2008 15:27:19 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=581#comment-9759 me like women with hairy legs me like women with hairy legs

]]> By: Sandier Pastures http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/09/25/tap-tap-tap-the-message-is-on-the-wall/comment-page-1/#comment-9755 Sandier Pastures Sun, 28 Sep 2008 13:24:38 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=581#comment-9755 This is a great read. BTW, I have an award for you over at my place. Do come by and pick it up. This is a great read. BTW, I have an award for you over at my place. Do come by and pick it up.

]]> By: Ms. Q http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/09/25/tap-tap-tap-the-message-is-on-the-wall/comment-page-1/#comment-9741 Ms. Q Sat, 27 Sep 2008 21:36:08 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=581#comment-9741 Oh - what a contrast with hairy legs and slingbacks. When I see women with hairy legs I wonder at how we work so hard to become physically hairless, scentless and smooth. I've been inculturated to think that smooth hairless legs look good on women. Oh – what a contrast with hairy legs and slingbacks. When I see women with hairy legs I wonder at how we work so hard to become physically hairless, scentless and smooth. I’ve been inculturated to think that smooth hairless legs look good on women.

]]> By: Ms. Q http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/09/25/tap-tap-tap-the-message-is-on-the-wall/comment-page-1/#comment-9740 Ms. Q Sat, 27 Sep 2008 21:29:17 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=581#comment-9740 Great post on what we see and don't see, what we pay attention to. It can be difficult to interpret what is really going on. Some people aren't assertive when it comes to asking for a seat so they take what they think of as a less aggressive/indirect way by tapping or pointing. I'm not much into being tapped on or pointed to but being in an urban public transportation situation can be kinda...tricky. I take the train to work but it's a long train ride (hour) and where I begin and where I end up aren't particularly urban as in Downtown Urban. When I've taken public transportation during rush hour in the city? Dang, some grumpy people. Yeesh. Yet I also see kids and teens get up to give their seats to older or disabled people. It's nice. People do feel safe approaching me what with being small and female and Asian. Great post on what we see and don’t see, what we pay attention to. It can be difficult to interpret what is really going on. Some people aren’t assertive when it comes to asking for a seat so they take what they think of as a less aggressive/indirect way by tapping or pointing. I’m not much into being tapped on or pointed to but being in an urban public transportation situation can be kinda…tricky.

I take the train to work but it’s a long train ride (hour) and where I begin and where I end up aren’t particularly urban as in Downtown Urban.

When I’ve taken public transportation during rush hour in the city? Dang, some grumpy people. Yeesh. Yet I also see kids and teens get up to give their seats to older or disabled people. It’s nice.

People do feel safe approaching me what with being small and female and Asian.

]]> By: kinshar http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/09/25/tap-tap-tap-the-message-is-on-the-wall/comment-page-1/#comment-9719 kinshar Sat, 27 Sep 2008 03:05:58 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=581#comment-9719 Hey I was in that same situation...except the old lady tapped me and gave me a note stating that she was elderly. So I got up...not once did she think to tap the men that was sitting there...she requested that a woman get up first not the men. Once I got up and looked back to see that men where still sitting ...it pissed me off. So know Im like aint giving up my seat no damn more. That was so ridiculous!! have a good day though Hey I was in that same situation…except the old lady tapped me and gave me a note stating that she was elderly. So I got up…not once did she think to tap the men that was sitting there…she requested that a woman get up first not the men. Once I got up and looked back to see that men where still sitting …it pissed me off. So know Im like aint giving up my seat no damn more. That was so ridiculous!!

have a good day though

]]> By: Lavenderbay http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/09/25/tap-tap-tap-the-message-is-on-the-wall/comment-page-1/#comment-9702 Lavenderbay Fri, 26 Sep 2008 17:19:55 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=581#comment-9702 Tough call for the old guy, though. If he had spoken to you, for all he knew you might have gotten angry because he'd let the whole car know you were sitting in the wrong seat. It's a tricky balance, in a big city, to be aware enough of your surroundings without becoming overwhelmed by them. Tough call for the old guy, though. If he had spoken to you, for all he knew you might have gotten angry because he’d let the whole car know you were sitting in the wrong seat.
It’s a tricky balance, in a big city, to be aware enough of your surroundings without becoming overwhelmed by them.

]]> By: dan-sean mankind http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/09/25/tap-tap-tap-the-message-is-on-the-wall/comment-page-1/#comment-9680 dan-sean mankind Thu, 25 Sep 2008 22:51:22 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=581#comment-9680 This was a great read!!! Thanks for sharing this! I agree with you wholeheartedly. At the same time I'm thinking that maybe the "tap and point" system was his "only" way of communicating with you. We never know. But in general, if you're capable of communicating in English, then by all means open your damn mouth and say what it is you must say. This was a great read!!! Thanks for sharing this! I agree with you wholeheartedly. At the same time I’m thinking that maybe the “tap and point” system was his “only” way of communicating with you. We never know. But in general, if you’re capable of communicating in English, then by all means open your damn mouth and say what it is you must say.

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