Comments on: Stand Clear of the Closing Doors: Finding Love in the Big City XVIII http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/08/22/stand-clear-of-the-closing-doors-finding-love-in-the-big-city-xviii/ Tue, 09 Mar 2010 09:00:21 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: The Orange Phoenix http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/08/22/stand-clear-of-the-closing-doors-finding-love-in-the-big-city-xviii/comment-page-1/#comment-9120 The Orange Phoenix Sat, 30 Aug 2008 20:30:13 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=505#comment-9120 Ms. Q - u completely touch me with your words, I am speechless. Sometimes it is braver to wear your pain on your sleeve than to bottle it in. Only then can the healing begin. Nikki Indigo - the moment you look the fear in the face and embrace, it will dissipate like mist. Be brave. Ms. Q – u completely touch me with your words, I am speechless.

Sometimes it is braver to wear your pain on your sleeve than to bottle it in. Only then can the healing begin.

Nikki Indigo – the moment you look the fear in the face and embrace, it will dissipate like mist. Be brave.

]]> By: nikki indigo http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/08/22/stand-clear-of-the-closing-doors-finding-love-in-the-big-city-xviii/comment-page-1/#comment-9059 nikki indigo Tue, 26 Aug 2008 22:15:37 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=505#comment-9059 how powerful and courageous you are to face your past like that. one day i hope i can do the same. you've definitely inspired me to consider it. how powerful and courageous you are to face your past like that. one day i hope i can do the same. you’ve definitely inspired me to consider it.

]]> By: ShAé - ShAé http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/08/22/stand-clear-of-the-closing-doors-finding-love-in-the-big-city-xviii/comment-page-1/#comment-9054 ShAé - ShAé Tue, 26 Aug 2008 14:02:42 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=505#comment-9054 OMG I feel like dancing! Good for you! With every word I read my mind was screaming, "Run!!" I'm glad you did. *whew* that was close. There's a reason you left the first time. Heed the inner warnings and stay away, far, far away. Leave it in the past. OMG I feel like dancing!

Good for you! With every word I read my mind was screaming, “Run!!”

I’m glad you did. *whew* that was close. There’s a reason you left the first time. Heed the inner warnings and stay away, far, far away. Leave it in the past.

]]> By: QMusings » Searching For Love http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/08/22/stand-clear-of-the-closing-doors-finding-love-in-the-big-city-xviii/comment-page-1/#comment-9031 QMusings » Searching For Love Mon, 25 Aug 2008 10:04:07 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=505#comment-9031 [...] matchmakers and bad dreams. Meleah ponders loneliness and has a perfect date. Orange Phoenix manages to keep her sense of humor (and self!) while dudes seem to pop outta nowhere asking her for [...] [...] matchmakers and bad dreams. Meleah ponders loneliness and has a perfect date. Orange Phoenix manages to keep her sense of humor (and self!) while dudes seem to pop outta nowhere asking her for [...]

]]> By: dejanae411 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/08/22/stand-clear-of-the-closing-doors-finding-love-in-the-big-city-xviii/comment-page-1/#comment-9015 dejanae411 Sun, 24 Aug 2008 07:08:40 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=505#comment-9015 powerful powerful

]]> By: Ms. Q http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/08/22/stand-clear-of-the-closing-doors-finding-love-in-the-big-city-xviii/comment-page-1/#comment-9014 Ms. Q Sun, 24 Aug 2008 03:05:36 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=505#comment-9014 That was a very moving post and I had to double-check that you wrote it because it was written from a "different place" and I think you understand what I mean. You so TOTALLY go girl! I love your using the Sunflowers as both protection and a way to leave the past to rest. I'm glad you're still hopeful (your words to Meleah) and heck, your posts on your dates show that you're still willing to lay in on the line for love! It does take a lot to share something so personal, something that has affected you so deeply. Thanks for sharing. I have also been looking for love. Unlike you (must be where we respectively live) love doesn't ride up in a bike and offer me a drink. It really is heartening to know that you went through so much (infidelity! abusiveness!) and you have kept your sense of humor and hopefulness intact. It sounds like you also forgave yourself. Sometimes we look back at what we did (like taking abuse) and we don't forgive ourselves or we think we should have known better. Regarding Meleah's comment about never being able to love a certain way again - that is probably true in that the love between 2 people is unique to them. I would hope that a powerful romantic love could happen more than once in a lifetime. OP: You sound like one special woman. You deserve one very special guy. That was a very moving post and I had to double-check that you wrote it because it was written from a “different place” and I think you understand what I mean.

You so TOTALLY go girl! I love your using the Sunflowers as both protection and a way to leave the past to rest.

I’m glad you’re still hopeful (your words to Meleah) and heck, your posts on your dates show that you’re still willing to lay in on the line for love!

It does take a lot to share something so personal, something that has affected you so deeply. Thanks for sharing. I have also been looking for love. Unlike you (must be where we respectively live) love doesn’t ride up in a bike and offer me a drink.

It really is heartening to know that you went through so much (infidelity! abusiveness!) and you have kept your sense of humor and hopefulness intact.

It sounds like you also forgave yourself. Sometimes we look back at what we did (like taking abuse) and we don’t forgive ourselves or we think we should have known better.

Regarding Meleah’s comment about never being able to love a certain way again – that is probably true in that the love between 2 people is unique to them. I would hope that a powerful romantic love could happen more than once in a lifetime.

OP: You sound like one special woman. You deserve one very special guy.

]]> By: The Orange Phoenix http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/08/22/stand-clear-of-the-closing-doors-finding-love-in-the-big-city-xviii/comment-page-1/#comment-9004 The Orange Phoenix Fri, 22 Aug 2008 20:58:38 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=505#comment-9004 Thank you for the positive comments - This was the hardest post that I've written. Sometimes going to the dark side allows for the healing to begin. . . Meleah, I do believe that it is possible to love that hard again, don't give up, as much as it seems easy to. Thank you for the positive comments – This was the hardest post that I’ve written. Sometimes going to the dark side allows for the healing to begin. . .

Meleah, I do believe that it is possible to love that hard again, don’t give up, as much as it seems easy to.

]]> By: mangoqueen http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/08/22/stand-clear-of-the-closing-doors-finding-love-in-the-big-city-xviii/comment-page-1/#comment-9002 mangoqueen Fri, 22 Aug 2008 18:35:43 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=505#comment-9002 Wow! I love teh way you told that story. I can't imagine how hard that was for you. Running like hell was a damn good idea. Wow! I love teh way you told that story. I can’t imagine how hard that was for you. Running like hell was a damn good idea.

]]> By: meleah rebeccah http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/08/22/stand-clear-of-the-closing-doors-finding-love-in-the-big-city-xviii/comment-page-1/#comment-8995 meleah rebeccah Fri, 22 Aug 2008 13:09:10 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=505#comment-8995 "I re-lived the old me dying all over again" That was a very POWERFUL statement. Wow. This post made me sad, as I once loved that hard, and have never been able to love like that after it ended. I still dont think I will ever love someone like that again. “I re-lived the old me dying all over again”

That was a very POWERFUL statement. Wow.

This post made me sad, as I once loved that hard, and have never been able to love like that after it ended. I still dont think I will ever love someone like that again.

]]> By: Sue http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/08/22/stand-clear-of-the-closing-doors-finding-love-in-the-big-city-xviii/comment-page-1/#comment-8994 Sue Fri, 22 Aug 2008 11:50:02 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=505#comment-8994 You are one brave woman...eeps! You are one brave woman…eeps!

]]> By: Lavenderbay http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2008/08/22/stand-clear-of-the-closing-doors-finding-love-in-the-big-city-xviii/comment-page-1/#comment-8993 Lavenderbay Fri, 22 Aug 2008 11:39:50 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/?p=505#comment-8993 Amazing. You absolutely, positively rock. Congratulations on an incredibly hard job well done! Amazing. You absolutely, positively rock. Congratulations on an incredibly hard job well done!

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