Free Writing: Selfish
By Urban Thought on June 14, 2008 @ 9:32 am
Normally, I right a free write on Friday. I wasn’t able to get to it this past Friday as I was dealing with situations. Today’s Free Write is a result of an evening that I care not to repeat.
Free Write: Selfish
You call me selfish and I can appreciate it. I can own it and relish in the moment of my selfishness. You look at me as though being selfish is a bad thing. You explain why selfish shouldn’t be looked at in such a positive light. You have grown to understand that you are selfish and have taken the steps to change that, for you. Me? No. I don’t find a problem with being selfish. I see life so differently than you. I have learned to be selfish. Because in my eyes selfish isn’t a bad thing. (Warning: I’m about to get profane with my language.)
Too many times people label me saying that I’m selfish. They may not see the generous side of me. Perhaps that isn’t for them. How I see selfish may need to be explained to them. Sure I care about people. Who would I be if I didn’t. However, I had to learn a long time to put my self first. I had to learn to be about SELF. I had to learn to hand my own ISH. For no one person is going to handle it for me. So why not be SELF-ISH. Why not handle my own ISH? It’s OK to be selfish. It’s OK to put my SELF first. Yes… I am going to handle my own ISH, shit. I’m going to handle my own shit. And I won’t subject others to deal with it. If that makes me SELFISH then allow me to wear that with pride while you look at me with the crooked eye.
(I’m keeping it short today. I have to hit the gym. Thank you for reading.)
Observations
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In theology school it’s called self-CARE. If you don’t go to the gym, eat properly, learn your personal boundaries and keep them respected, or if you self-medicate to dissolve the pain that’s built up from listening to your parishioners’ troubles, you’re not providing self-care. No self-care, no ability to care for others. Burnout guaranteed.
Hope you had a good session at the gym.
Urban, I agree. Some times you do have to be selfish, because no one is going to take care of what you need done. We all need to put ourselves first, some times.
Works for me.
Some people define selfish as you doing what you want instead of what they want you to do. To hell with that.
u silly lol all writing is selfish
Lavenderbay: You are so right. And who knows you better than yourself? I did have a great session. Thank you.
Natural: So true. I’ve always felt that at the end of the day (or beginning of the evening) it is me and me alone that will be there for myself, no matter what.
EOTR: You must have been in the same room as me. That is exactly the reason why I was called selfish.
Rawdawg: LOL… I’ll be that. Indeed, it is.
I’ll be damned if I am going to allow others to dictate how I choose to live…if that is selfish, then so be it…
In my eyes, so much in life starts with SELF. It seems you were dealing with pure ignorance from this particular person. For someone to know you as the person that you are shouldn’t view your selfishness as a bad thing. They have a problem and I pray that they get it resolved immediately!
I had to learn to become selfish – best thing I ever did for my..SELF! I like that what Lavendarbay wrote, “Self Care” Yep. I was told I was very selfish as a child and what happened was that I grew up not being aware of my own needs (self). I was called selfish because I didn’t do what someone else wanted me to do…for them.
What’s inneresting is that if you’re taking care of your own needs, you have so much more to give to others.
Sure there are people out there who only care about themselves and their needs. Usually what is going on is they haven’t figured out a way to be selfish in a healthy way so they keep trying to fill themselves up with other people’s care.
Selfish is good! You take care of your self and I take care of my self!