Comments on: Don’t be Cheap when Everything Else is Free

By: dan-sean mankind

dan-sean mankind — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 18:58:55 +0000

I feel it’s the appropriate thing to do in any situation, especially when you’re not being held accountable for the entire bill. Given the fact that another person may not be as fortunate as you are in the pocket department, just knowing that they may be capable of paying a fraction but still apprehensive says alot. If funds are limited, why not live within your means?

By: Ricardo

Ricardo — Sun, 27 Apr 2008 16:07:53 +0000

Oh, no, no, no, no, no! Fork over the 6 bucks for the tip and be thankful that someone picked up the bill. You didn’t have to do that. 6 is very modest even if unemployed.

By: Urban Thought

Urban Thought — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 20:39:50 +0000

Lavenderbay: You aren’t too far off from the truth. Birthday’s are one thing. I can appreciate a birthday outing and everyone chipping in to cover the special someone’s special day.

Televisiontraci: LOL… My friend sits with more money in his pocket then I would ever care to carry.

Ms. Q: Indeed, friends… I tell you one thing the next time I hear it I’m going to let him know how I feel about it.

Sharon: Yes. Cheap. Cheap. Cheap.

MarvalusOne: I hope you are going out with other females. As a male, I find myself making sure my female friends are covered at all time.

IW: Ha Ha Ha… Funny how that works. Dude showers them with gifts. But cannot help pay a tab when out with friends.

FD: We could hang. Cheap isn’t something I know too much about. Frugal I do know about. But when you’re going out to have a good time money is the least of worries.

Meleah: Tell me about it!

By: meleah rebeccah

meleah rebeccah — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 20:42:08 +0000

so NOT cool

By: The Fitness Diva

The Fitness Diva — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 14:14:21 +0000

I can’t stand cheapness either. In fact, don’t hang with me if you’re cheap, because I’m generous. If I have, you have. It’s like that.
And when dining or hanging at a bar or lounge, I usually tip around 20% unless the service sucks REALLY bad. Being asked to contribute the tip, whatever it is, after getting a meal/drinks for free is a gift horse, and you should never look it in the mouth! ….whatever the hell that means…. lol
But I’m feeling you on this one.

By: invisiblewoman

invisiblewoman — Sun, 20 Apr 2008 22:48:18 +0000

Dang, dude is unclear on the concept. If he does have any girlfriends, I bet they don’t last long….hopefully he married his high school sweetheart.

By: MarvalusOne

MarvalusOne — Sun, 20 Apr 2008 02:45:16 +0000

I am usually the one that pays too, either the whole bill or too much, because someone is always short, or didn’t bring enough, or is just cheap…I don’t go there because that’s what I expect…

But this right here? If you ask me out and then start bitching about a $6 tip, we gon have some words…

By: Sharon

Sharon — Sat, 19 Apr 2008 18:21:44 +0000

Wait, you paid for the entire bill and your friend couldn’t pitch in for a tip? How not cool.

By: Ms. Q

Ms. Q — Sat, 19 Apr 2008 16:42:56 +0000

I don’t blame you for the rant! I’m definitely getting more a picture of who you are and how similar we are (on the inside!) I have ended up paying the bill within a small group of people since I’ve been the one who could afford it and it’s about getting together and if I want a drink and to spend time with them, well, it’s worth it.

Part of me thinks that when it comes to people you love, you shouldn’t make them “pay” as in, “Say thank you, give me some gratitude” because then it’s not a gift. Like I always pay when taking my mom out. It should be a no big, right? It’s not like parents should make their children thank them for putting food on the table.

That’s some background on what goes on when I pay for things.

Now I have seen the type of cheapness you experienced. It does bother me. Usually when someone treats me and asks me for the tip, I give more tip than usual. Although part of me does dicker internally if I don’t think the service was worth it.

But really, so what? If you got drinks and a meal for tip, sheesh, give a big tip!

Plus why should you have to have this internal justification/dialog between yourself and your friend? It’s difficult but we do expect our friends and our families to Step Up, you know? Like - I expect more from you!

This type of thinking I’m still working on. Part of me wants people to Step Up and then another part of me is saying that asking someone to be someone other than who they are is lack of acceptance and criticism. I still haven’t let go of one incident where I ended up paying for someone I didn’t want to. It was my fault, though - I should have been assertive instead of just being annoyed at his incredible ability to avoid looking at the bill placed between us.

Ah, friends!

By: Televisiontraci

Televisiontraci — Sat, 19 Apr 2008 15:02:34 +0000

What!! That is a crazy situation. I did think for a min. that you were going to stop with the dollar bill, and I was going to go off Glad to know at least your friend did bring some cash.

By: Lavenderbay

Lavenderbay — Sat, 19 Apr 2008 12:07:29 +0000

Good grief! I bet this guy doesn’t go on many second dates.
Friend A asked my partner and me out to supper for Friday night (last night). We rounded up Friend B, and spent three hours at a really nice place. When the tab came, three of us paid it and refused to let Friend A contribute. She was surprised — but it was her birthday.