Comments on: Finding Love in the Big City, Part VIII: The Art of Rope-a-Dope http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/ Sun, 07 Sep 2008 02:59:38 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Urban Observation | Blog http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/#comment-5184 Urban Observation | Blog Thu, 31 Jan 2008 05:01:25 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/#comment-5184 [...] briefed Ray on the last schmuck I was dealing with I mentioned that I was through with ‘The Brothers’ for a moment. Who knew the revelation [...] [...] briefed Ray on the last schmuck I was dealing with I mentioned that I was through with ‘The Brothers’ for a moment. Who knew the revelation [...]

]]> By: The Orange Phoenix http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/#comment-5032 The Orange Phoenix Wed, 23 Jan 2008 16:56:48 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/#comment-5032 I guess younger would probably be better - I mean anything younger than 50 will be an improvement. . . I guess younger would probably be better - I mean anything younger than 50 will be an improvement. . .

]]> By: Urban Observation | Blog http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/#comment-5026 Urban Observation | Blog Wed, 23 Jan 2008 05:00:55 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/#comment-5026 [...] when we last saw Lady OP, she was unfortunately splayed out on the canvas by a sucker punch. So I have swatted the [...] [...] when we last saw Lady OP, she was unfortunately splayed out on the canvas by a sucker punch. So I have swatted the [...]

]]> By: Ms. Q http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/#comment-4740 Ms. Q Tue, 08 Jan 2008 19:25:51 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/#comment-4740 Awww...I really feel for you! I too had hopes for this guy. There is no easy way to break up with anyone and he was sounding mostly OK until the FWB part and just awful at that "never stopped" part. DANG. I'm with invisiblewoman on honesty - there is something to be said for a guy that is upfront about the wrongs that he does. Mr. December went out of his way to hurt you with that last comment and wow, how rough for you to lose someone you love and then find out they are not at all the wonderful person you thought they were. Double whammy! You are very observant. If you didn't see it coming, he was very good at hiding things. 2007 was a very odd year - I heard of lots of endings and heartbreak. I also went through heartache. I think 2008 is when REAL love arrives. When you're ready, maybe you should follow my mom's advice - date YOUNGER men. 'Course, you're younger than I am (I'm gonna be 43) so dating younger might be too young but...ya never know. I feel for you. Awww…I really feel for you! I too had hopes for this guy. There is no easy way to break up with anyone and he was sounding mostly OK until the FWB part and just awful at that “never stopped” part.

DANG. I’m with invisiblewoman on honesty - there is something to be said for a guy that is upfront about the wrongs that he does. Mr. December went out of his way to hurt you with that last comment and wow, how rough for you to lose someone you love and then find out they are not at all the wonderful person you thought they were. Double whammy!

You are very observant. If you didn’t see it coming, he was very good at hiding things.

2007 was a very odd year - I heard of lots of endings and heartbreak. I also went through heartache. I think 2008 is when REAL love arrives. When you’re ready, maybe you should follow my mom’s advice - date YOUNGER men. ‘Course, you’re younger than I am (I’m gonna be 43) so dating younger might be too young but…ya never know.

I feel for you.

]]> By: invisiblewoman http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/#comment-4688 invisiblewoman Sat, 05 Jan 2008 16:22:03 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/#comment-4688 Yeah, that dude you were with is probably that too by the way it sounds, lol! Someone I used to date when I lived in New York said you don't break up in the Winter in NY cause it's too cold to be trolling around looking for someone new. You just stay warm with the person you're with, and break out in Spring when it's warm enough to start looking again....I thought that was funny! I was with that dude for 6 years, and yes, he did cheat a couple times, but at least he was honest about it, and strangely, despite that, he really was a good guy. Go figure--relationships are so layered. Yeah, that dude you were with is probably that too by the way it sounds, lol!

Someone I used to date when I lived in New York said you don’t break up in the Winter in NY cause it’s too cold to be trolling around looking for someone new. You just stay warm with the person you’re with, and break out in Spring when it’s warm enough to start looking again….I thought that was funny!

I was with that dude for 6 years, and yes, he did cheat a couple times, but at least he was honest about it, and strangely, despite that, he really was a good guy. Go figure–relationships are so layered.

]]> By: The Orange Phoenix http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/#comment-4668 The Orange Phoenix Fri, 04 Jan 2008 19:37:21 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/#comment-4668 Thanks for the kind words invisiblewoman - I didn't know there was a rule about when to break-up. I always thought it was "best" to do the dirty deed before Christmas and Valentine's Day so you don't have to give a gift. That is what you call a cheap f*ck Thanks for the kind words invisiblewoman -

I didn’t know there was a rule about when to break-up. I always thought it was “best” to do the dirty deed before Christmas and Valentine’s Day so you don’t have to give a gift.

That is what you call a cheap f*ck

]]> By: invisiblewoman http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/#comment-4642 invisiblewoman Thu, 03 Jan 2008 03:43:53 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/#comment-4642 What a dick! I went thru a similiar break up....I asked him if he was seeing someone else, just be honest, blah blah blah. He denied it, blah blah blah. Then I started really looking for those signs...and they were all there. When I had my "Rumble In The Jungle" he finally admitted it, and HIS parting statement was "I'm a man"--like that explained everything. I couldn't believe he said something so cold and cruel. But that's the point of why I am taking the time to relay this to you. Anyone who can consciously be that huge of a dick to you is someone you need as far away from you as possible. And guess what? Tho I was crushed then, if I was in the same situation I wouldn't even date him now...I can see now that there are so many others that are more aligned with the way I think, and the things I need. Plus that dumbass you're speaking of forgot the cardinal rule of New York...you NEVER break up with someone in the Winter, you wait until Spring, ya stupid sh--t! :-) Add lack of etiquette to the reasons why you need to let that loser go. Stay strong and good luck... :-) What a dick!

I went thru a similiar break up….I asked him if he was seeing someone else, just be honest, blah blah blah. He denied it, blah blah blah. Then I started really looking for those signs…and they were all there. When I had my “Rumble In The Jungle” he finally admitted it, and HIS parting statement was “I’m a man”–like that explained everything.

I couldn’t believe he said something so cold and cruel. But that’s the point of why I am taking the time to relay this to you. Anyone who can consciously be that huge of a dick to you is someone you need as far away from you as possible. And guess what? Tho I was crushed then, if I was in the same situation I wouldn’t even date him now…I can see now that there are so many others that are more aligned with the way I think, and the things I need.

Plus that dumbass you’re speaking of forgot the cardinal rule of New York…you NEVER break up with someone in the Winter, you wait until Spring, ya stupid sh–t! :-) Add lack of etiquette to the reasons why you need to let that loser go. Stay strong and good luck… :-)

]]> By: The Orange Phoenix http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/#comment-4619 The Orange Phoenix Tue, 01 Jan 2008 23:23:40 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/#comment-4619 Why is truth often more unbelievable than fiction? Who knows what the future will bring - Off to the clubs. Why is truth often more unbelievable than fiction? Who knows what the future will bring - Off to the clubs.

]]> By: Urban Thought http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/#comment-4594 Urban Thought Mon, 31 Dec 2007 17:07:00 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/12/30/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-viii-the-art-of-rope-a-dope/#comment-4594 I cannot believe what I'm reading right now. This is crazy. But at the same time I have to say you can do better than him. Someone who is that insensitive needs to not be in your life. I cannot believe what I’m reading right now. This is crazy. But at the same time I have to say you can do better than him. Someone who is that insensitive needs to not be in your life.

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