Urban Thought | 9 Observations 
Last night a DJ saved my life, she played Amy Winehouse.
Soon after experiencing the loss of a long term friendship, I experienced a pain that would not quit. It always hurts when you lose someone you love. It hurts when you feel that you’ve given your all to a person and sometimes that isn’t enough for them. Sometimes they have to do what is best for them and they walk away from you because they feel that is the only option. I cannot fault someone for doing what they feel will be better for them. But still, it hurts.
Venting is a way of getting that anger and frustration out about the loss. There are very few people I can talk to. One person I thought to express myself to was my brother. He always has great insight on life’s experiences, not to mention a good ear. He’ll just sit back and listen and make you feel at ease.
This time around my brother offered me some music to soothe the savage beast inside of me that was about to break out into a rage. He offered a single by Amy Winehouse called ‘Just Friends.’ I was not sure if I was ready for music to cure the nauseating feeling I had inside over the loss. But who am I to turn down any good gesture or suggestion? Knowing that Amy was already in my iPod was of great comfort. What a great reason to listen to her since I hadn’t listened to her at all before (other than the few singles that have come on the radio).
Listening to her voice made me realize that music does indeed cure the savage beast. Although my pain didn’t go away, my understanding of self increased. I realized (not that I wasn’t aware) that all relationships must come to an end (if not by death then by circumstance).
Last night a DJ saved my life and she played Amy Winehouse. I have to appreciate this young lady for putting out a great piece of music.
After listening to Just Friend I took the time to listen to the rest of the Album. It was a rewarding experience knowing that real music is not dead. That we go through pain and pain reaches our heart. Out of that pain can come beautiful words expressing the experience that caused the pain in the first place. Through the expression of pain we can find healing.
Through healing we can grow as people. As people, we share that which we have learned. Through what we have learned we are able to become better, stronger, wiser.
Last Night a DJ saved my life. Today, I am a better man for it. Tomorrow I will be a better person for it. Once I share my truth and understanding with another I can make life around me greater than it was yesterday.
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This was extremely deep! I loved reading it! Thanks for sharing!
Love, love, LOVE that Amy Winehouse album. You know what helped me get through a break-up? Mama’s Gun by Erykah Badu…the last few songs…they segueway (spelling?) into each other and she made it after her breakup with Andre 3000.
It is beautiful, sad, joyful, funny, and uplifting all at the same time…made me love her and that album forever. Hope you can get it or already have it–and hope it helps–I know how it is
DSM: You know that is what I’m here for. Thx for taking the time out to read it.
invisiblewoman: That album is hot. I listened to it on my way back to NYC last night.
I do have Mama’s Gun. One of the best albums she has ever put out. I especially liked the one song “Green Eyes.”
She changed the order of songs after the album jacket was complete. I couldn’t imagine it any other way than her last revision.
Can I just say that you are becoming a deep and soulful spirit. D’Angelo’s Voodoo and Common’s Be are my groove albums
I love Amy Winehouse’s voice - discovered her on Ricardo’s blog! I have her “Back to Black” and listened to it over and over.
Which album did “Best Friends” come from? I did a quick search on amazon and couldn’t track it down.
I’ve actually had to stop listening to that album as much as I liked it. I wasn’t liking the thoughts of love lost, being left, being used.
Moved on to India Arie for a while - needed some uplift. Losing a long term friend…that’s rough. When I connect with someone, it hurts to let them go. Even though I know it’s for the best.
I feel for you. You let someone in and open yourself up and then they are gone, taking all that (history, love, pain, the softest parts of you) with them.
Rosa: You think so? I’ve been doing my best to get in tune with my feelings. Go figure.
Ms. Q: It is actually ‘Just Friends.’ Not sure how I screwed up the name considering I went on a search for the lyrics. LOL.
I’m not familiar with Amy Winehouse, but I’ll be sure to check it out… Here is one song that hits my soul whenever I listen to it. I dedicated it to a special friend that I met almost six years ago…
Sade, By Your Side…
You know what? I love her music too. She’s amazing but is an emotional train wreck. It’s a tragedy. But I’m glad you found comfort in her music at this time. I have lost a few long term friendships over the years and it does indeed eat away at you. But, the door for new friends opens up if we know where to look. At least that’s how I try to look at it.
Christian: Maybe I’ll send you the CD for the Holidays. Better yet I’ll send you a iTunes gift card and you can download it.
Ricardo: You are right. Losing folks makes room for others. I have learned a lot from the experience. It is never easy when you care so much. And it isn’t something I want to get used to.
You’re outlook on the topic is a great one. I appreciate your thoughts.