Comments on: Finding Love in the Big City, Part VII: Cutting off the Ex’s http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/11/01/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-vii-cutting-off-the-exs/ Mon, 08 Sep 2008 06:36:38 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: The Orange Phoenix http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/11/01/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-vii-cutting-off-the-exs/#comment-3828 The Orange Phoenix Sun, 25 Nov 2007 02:20:41 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/11/01/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-vii-cutting-off-the-exs/#comment-3828 I wish I had the answer to this pithy question, watching my mistakes and triumphs is part of the fun though. . . I wish I had the answer to this pithy question, watching my mistakes and triumphs is part of the fun though. . .

]]> By: Jill http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/11/01/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-vii-cutting-off-the-exs/#comment-3732 Jill Thu, 22 Nov 2007 01:07:10 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/11/01/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-vii-cutting-off-the-exs/#comment-3732 Drat! You mean we don't get an actual ANSWER on the ex thing?!?!?!?! I was hoping I was going to read a definitive amount of time... I sort of prefer to know as little as possible about a guy's exes as far as what kind of contact he has with them. Seems like there's so little you can really do - forbidding someone contact with someone else doesn't seem right & short of that what is there? Seems like your guys exes are a little too intrusive for my preferred route of total denial though! And then there are the exes that *I'm* friends with...really, I was hoping for explicit instructions! :-) :-) :-) KIDDING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (But a little bit not kidding!) Drat! You mean we don’t get an actual ANSWER on the ex thing?!?!?!?! I was hoping I was going to read a definitive amount of time…

I sort of prefer to know as little as possible about a guy’s exes as far as what kind of contact he has with them. Seems like there’s so little you can really do - forbidding someone contact with someone else doesn’t seem right & short of that what is there? Seems like your guys exes are a little too intrusive for my preferred route of total denial though!

And then there are the exes that *I’m* friends with…really, I was hoping for explicit instructions!
:-) :-) :-) KIDDING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (But a little bit not kidding!)

]]> By: Urban Thought http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/11/01/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-vii-cutting-off-the-exs/#comment-3666 Urban Thought Tue, 20 Nov 2007 00:00:21 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/11/01/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-vii-cutting-off-the-exs/#comment-3666 And if you cannot talk it out then "walk it out." Actually, given that dude is cut from the same cloth as I am and I know you to be a sensable, loving individual, I know it (obstacles, challenges, frustrations) can be worked out. And if you cannot talk it out then “walk it out.”

Actually, given that dude is cut from the same cloth as I am and I know you to be a sensable, loving individual, I know it (obstacles, challenges, frustrations) can be worked out.

]]> By: Ms. Q http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/11/01/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-vii-cutting-off-the-exs/#comment-3665 Ms. Q Mon, 19 Nov 2007 23:44:56 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/11/01/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-vii-cutting-off-the-exs/#comment-3665 Urban has it right. Machetes may be interesting (and I'm taking you mean it metaphorically as you seem to be a woman with a sense of humor!!) but who needs drama in a relationship? Who wants a soap opera? Who wants a mug shot? Not me! I believe in working things out but if I feel bad about myself in a relationship or if I feel that I am not growing or if I have to lie to myself in a relationship, it's time to leave. Doesn't even mean that the guy is bad - just that they are bad for me in some way. Same with friendships. I hope you can talk it out! Urban has it right. Machetes may be interesting (and I’m taking you mean it metaphorically as you seem to be a woman with a sense of humor!!) but who needs drama in a relationship? Who wants a soap opera? Who wants a mug shot? Not me!

I believe in working things out but if I feel bad about myself in a relationship or if I feel that I am not growing or if I have to lie to myself in a relationship, it’s time to leave. Doesn’t even mean that the guy is bad - just that they are bad for me in some way. Same with friendships.

I hope you can talk it out!

]]> By: Urban Thought http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/11/01/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-vii-cutting-off-the-exs/#comment-3559 Urban Thought Sat, 17 Nov 2007 03:00:30 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/11/01/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-vii-cutting-off-the-exs/#comment-3559 <strong>The Orange Pheonix</strong>: Don't get locked up over some man. That is the worst. Most woman in prison are in lock up because of men. A good woman like you needs to be out and ready to love. The Orange Pheonix: Don’t get locked up over some man. That is the worst. Most woman in prison are in lock up because of men. A good woman like you needs to be out and ready to love.

]]> By: The Orange Phoenix http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/11/01/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-vii-cutting-off-the-exs/#comment-3491 The Orange Phoenix Thu, 15 Nov 2007 04:53:21 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/11/01/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-vii-cutting-off-the-exs/#comment-3491 <p>Hi Ms. Q.</p> <p>Thanks for the reply, but life with a machete seems more interesting. . .</p> Hi Ms. Q.

Thanks for the reply, but life with a machete seems more interesting. . .

]]> By: Ms. Q http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/11/01/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-vii-cutting-off-the-exs/#comment-3387 Ms. Q Sun, 11 Nov 2007 21:45:15 +0000 http://blog.urbanobservation.com/2007/11/01/finding-love-in-the-big-city-part-vii-cutting-off-the-exs/#comment-3387 That's a difficult question. Depends on the ex! It's one thing if the ex and your boyfriend share a child - what can you do. But if the ex is always asking for emotional support? Nggggh. Not so sure about that. So far I haven't had any "Return of the EX part 357" - when I have had "return of the ex" it was early stages yet and if the guy had any doubts, I thought it best to go back and figure things out. When it comes to the exes I would think that it's up to your boyfriend to make you feel at ease. Even if you trust him, some people get sucked into the emotional vortexes of their exes. If this is happening on a regular basis, maybe it's time to discuss your feelings. Sans machete! That’s a difficult question. Depends on the ex! It’s one thing if the ex and your boyfriend share a child - what can you do. But if the ex is always asking for emotional support? Nggggh. Not so sure about that.

So far I haven’t had any “Return of the EX part 357″ - when I have had “return of the ex” it was early stages yet and if the guy had any doubts, I thought it best to go back and figure things out.

When it comes to the exes I would think that it’s up to your boyfriend to make you feel at ease. Even if you trust him, some people get sucked into the emotional vortexes of their exes. If this is happening on a regular basis, maybe it’s time to discuss your feelings. Sans machete!

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