Why Be A Mother?
By Urban Thought on October 8, 2007 @ 1:31 pm
Motherhood is something many woman have cried over. Some cry because it is out of reach for them. A prime example would be Charlotte from Sex in the City. Here you have a woman who longed for a child yet her body wouldn’t allow her to produce one. I understand that she is a fictional character but the desire and urge of having a child is a reality for many woman. She ended up adopting an Asian baby. Something I see a lot of in NYC.
Then you have Britney Spears… She isn’t a work of fiction but her life is worth documenting. If not for the sensationalism, then for the prime example of how not to be a mother when you are famous. The paparazzi has exploited her only because she has allowed herself to be exploited. I only wonder what was her actual downfall. Could it be that she really didn’t want to be a mother? That some how condoms or any other type of birthcontrol was not an option?
People already question her judgement due to her choice in men, her lack of control of substances (alcohol and other drugs). It’s understood why her children were taken away from her. But when it comes to K-Fed, I question his motives for wanting his children. I only see him as seeing them (the children) as a paycheck rather than his own, to love and nurture. But, who am I? I am not in his presence to understand his state of mind.
THE OFFICE
People tend to tell their business to folk that the spend the most time with. Like the people in my office. They happen to stand by my desk talking about how hard it was to actually have a child. Going to specialists, reading books, and surfing the net trying to figure out how to have a baby the natural way.
THE HOOD
People in my area of NYC seem to be so fertile. As if they think about a child or sex and bang here comes the morning sickness. I’ve overheard some people wonder why people who don’t really want kids, but enjoy having sex, end up having children and those who want to have children have such a hard time conceiving.
All I can say is the world is a funny place. As we continue to understand the world we live in the more confused we become by trying to understand it.
Observations
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This post is right on point! As the father of three beautiful girls, I can honestly say that I am happy that all of them are here…
I gotta feel you on this one. I’m not a parent but my family has adopted a young boy from a friend of my sister who after giving birth decided it wasn’t for her. WHAT?! A little late. He’s the most charming little 22 month old alive and he’s not wanted by either of his parents.
Although my mom and sister technically aren’t his mother…they are. They perform that role. I’ve only got one mom in this world but so many mothers and thankful for each and every one.
Salute all you Moms out there.
I also know people who long for children. Some neighbors of mine are so ecstatic to finally have their little girl. They adopted her from Asia. They happen to be Asian as well but I don’t get that this was what they were all about. They look to be great parents, just all “ooey gooey” and their little girl, well, she’s adorable.
Maybe it’s because most people I know are having their children later (mid-late 30s) but they all seem to be very happy to have them.
I am not sure why people in the hood seem to be so much more fertile than people in the office. Well, there is the fact that women ARE much more fertile at oh, 15 than say, 28! I’ve read that no matter how many advances we have with extending a woman’s reproductive years, the reality is that around age 28, women’s fertility (hormone levels) are dropping.
It could be a numbers game as well. Maybe people in the office are not only older but are not having as much sex (too tired, too stressed, who knows).
When it comes to women like B. Spears, I always wonder if they are having babies to fill in an inner emptiness. I’ve met a few woman who really want children and they are so needy and insecure, I feel a bit glad that they are not mothers. If you want to have a baby to be some source of unconditional love, try getting a dog instead.
She’s a total mess and it is odd that people who really want kids can’t and the ones that don’t pop them out like a factory. Maybe the people having the problems want it too much and have created a system that’s too intricate to reproduce. Of course some people have bad “pluming” as well. All in all, I hope they get what they want and raise wonderful famalies.
it does seem to be this way in the office and in the hood. i think it’s “weird”, but proper, to just have sex to make a baby, lol. the “mistakes” are the ones that produce like rabbits. some people stand on their head to have kids and end up with just a headache.
Natural: I’ve been meaning to write a follow up post to this. Something I observed in the office tipped me off to another trend.