Urban Thought | 7 Observations I’ve been to more funerals than I can count. I’ve been invited to wedding receptions but never an actual wedding, but that streak is over. Finally, I’ve gone to a wedding and it was great.
Going to a wedding is a big deal for me only because I’ve never been invited to an actual wedding. I’ve been to wedding receptions. I’ve worked a wedding before. But to receive an invitation is new to me. To go was even better. But the icing on the cake was to actually sit at the table with the bride in groom (I’m looking for table number one. Step this way UT). I have finally arrived.Growing up in the hood, I’ve known few people to be married. Most people just live together or pop out babies by absentee fathers. A lot of those jokesters think nothing of getting married. Why buy cow when you can get the milk free, right? I often thought this logic only worked in urban (Black) communities but this can translate to any part of society.
There is something to be said about the wedding I was invited to. The invite said, “Please no gifts.” You go to anyone else’s wedding and they tell you they are registered in so many odd places. So you know they expect something from you when you walk through the door, or don’t bother coming.
The setting was at a garden near a big lake. It was great. Very informal in terms of tradition standards but everyone was dressed their best. The ceremony lasted all of 15 minutes (just as long as the sex lasts longer, I wouldn’t worry too much). After that appetizers were served along with an open bar. This was new to me considering that most wedding receptions I went to were cash bar. And then… dinner. You know that shocked me. It wasn’t served on paper plates or out of aluminum trays. No, not at this wedding. It came with a menu and a selection the five meal courses.
Between the good company, laughs, and great food, it was a wonderful time. Nothing like the other wedding receptions I went to. The only thing missing from this wedding was a dance floor. I’m so happy to have experienced it.
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What a great wedding ceremony AND reception! I like it when the ceremony is 30 minutes or under. These days, I don’t think even the bride and groom want it to be too long.
Weddings can make me cry, even if I don’t know the couple all that well (I have a gazillion cousins) - there is just so much love and hope.
That was quite the reception - open bar and everything! I also like it when there’s dancing. It’s now one of the few times I get to dance! Plus you just have so much fun - I start asking the swaying-to-the-beat women to dance who sure look like they want to dance and there just aren’t enough or enough willing men to go around.
I’m glad you had a great wedding experience - it’s a very special ceremony and it’s nice that it was done so well.
Ms. Q: The bride told me she didn’t want anything long and drawn out. She was yelling out, “Can we begin? I want to eat.” She was always real about things so I wasn’t surprised.
You should like the best person to go to a party with. I can’t stand to see people holding up the wall, especially when the music is really good.
I always see how people arrange for their wedding, how they made it so beautiful but trust me man, if you attend Chinese’s wedding in my country (Malaysia), you will be impressed by how we sorta ’show off’ our punctuality.
Say the wedding starts at 8pm, the food will only be served at 9pm or sometimes 10pm, why? Because the guests always uphold a weird concept that we are never punctual! And when the food is served, you need to be quick otherwise your food will be grabbed by other guests.
Then you will be annoyed by the hired singers, when they sing, that’s when you feel like puking, but usually people won’t even bother them, they’ll do their thing and people will keep eating.
The moment people stop eating is when the bride and groom went on stage and start cutting the cake. So that’s how WE have our wedding, interesting isn’t it? LOL
Were you a groomsman, I’m assuming since you said you were at table 1?!? I attended my first wedding last year, for a pal I met in the dorms and I was surprised he asked me to be a groomsman. It was definitely a great experience
-Gregg
Cedric: Sounds like my type of wedding. If I know what time the food comes out then I may not arrive until that time comes. This way I can grab the food and go. Now if the DJ is on point then I may stick around. But for me its all about the food.
Gregg: No. I wasn’t a groomsman. They kept it real simple. Just her and her man in front of the judge. We were cool for some years so that’s why I think I ended up at her table.
That’s cool you were in the wedding party. How was the bachelor party though?
I’ve been to one weeding in my life and its sad in this day there aren’t more. We got work to do folks.
Weddings are even more rare than divorce how silly is that. They’ve become increasingly more expensive so that’s why its like a status symbol or at the very lease a right of passage…an opportunity for you to say “you’ve made it” even if just for a couple years before you get divorced.